What does ‘respect’ mean to you?
So often people tell me their happiness/unhappiness is related to whether they feel respected or disrespected. And I wonder how they measure those matters; are there rules?
I hear people complaining that they feel small if they don’t receive enough/certain respect. And I hear other people bragging that they feel big when they demand respect by making others bend their words or behaviours.
Big or small –using the matter of respect to gain validation is at best a hollow win and at worst, a weapon.
Awareness. Is key. If you want to nourish your mind, take note of your reaction to the concept of respect. What does it mean to you?
My antidote to ‘issues’ arising from this matter, is to look for shining examples of people who neither play big nor small. Instead, they self-regulate their internal responses to external stimuli and get on with flowing along their personal path.
How does your ‘respect-o-meter’ work?
In 1988 Professor Fritz Strack experimented with the perceived happiness of people when reading a cartoon.
Two groups read the same cartoon – one group had each to hold a pencil in their teeth without lips touching, the other group had to hold a pencil between their lips with no teeth contact.
Guess which group ‘felt’ happier?
Have you tried it yet?
Research shows that smiling releases feel-good neurochemicals and it triggers our social-emotional brain to respond positively. Smiles are contagious.
Enjoy this poem by Spike Milligan
Smiling Is Infectious
Smiling is infectious, you catch it like the flu,
When someone smiled at me today,
I started smiling too.
I passed around the corner, and someone saw my grin.
When he smiled I realised,
I’d passed it on to him.
I thought about that smile, then I realised its worth.
A single smile, just like mine,
could travel round the earth.
So, if you feel a smile begin, don’t leave it undetected.
Let’s start an epidemic quick,
and get the world infected!