A Lovely Love Story by Edward Monkton

A Lovely Love Story by Edward Monkton

The fierce Dinosaur was trapped inside his cage of ice. Although it was cold, he was happy in there. It was, after all, his cage.

Then along came the Lovely Other Dinosaur.

The Lovely Other Dinosaur melted the Dinosaur’s cage with kind words and loving thoughts.

“I like this Dinosaur,” thought the Lovely Other Dinosaur. “Although he is fierce he is also tender and he is funny. He is also quite clever though I will not tell him this for now.”

“I like this Lovely Other Dinosaur,” thought the Dinosaur. “She is beautiful and she is different and she smells so nice. She is also a free spirit which is a quality I much admire in a dinosaur.”

“But he can be so distant and so peculiar at times,” thought the Lovely Other Dinosaur.  “He is also overly fond of things.  Are all Dinosaurs so overly fond of things?”

“But her mind skips from here to there so quickly,” thought the Dinosaur.  “She is also uncommonly keen on shopping.  Are all Lovely Other Dinosaurs so uncommonly keen on shopping?”

“I will forgive his peculiarity and his concern for things,” thought the Lovely Other Dinosaur, “for they are part of what makes him a richly charactered individual.”

“I will forgive her skipping mind and her fondness for shopping,” thought the Dinosaur, “for she fills our life with beautiful thoughts and wonderful surprises. Besides, I am not unkeen on shopping either.”

Now the Dinosaur and the Lovely Other Dinosaur are old.  Look at them.  Together they stand on the hill telling each other stories and feeling the warmth of the sun on their backs.

And that, my friends, is how it is with love.

Let us all be Dinosaurs and Lovely Other Dinosaurs together. For the sun is warm.  And the world is a beautiful place.

Revising

Revising

Do you or does someone in your family (any age) struggle to revise in preparation for a test?

Whether it’s an academic exam or professional standards test, or some other measurement of knowledge and skill, here are a few things you should know about revision:

  1. Revising is not learning something new.  It is the process of checking in with knowledge and information already installed inside the brain.
  1. By bringing information to the surface of awareness, it can be examined more closely, modified, and re-packaged for (short-term) easy recall.
  1. Stress states divert energy away from the brain and prepare the body to fight or flight.  That massively disadvantages the brain’s ability to focus and sets up scattered attention.  Strands of important information get attached to ‘unrelated’ information.
  1. Thrive states assist the brain’s ability to focus, embed knowledge in simple units of information that connect to other ‘related’ units of information.
  1. Brains quickly associate the activity of revising with associated states of brain chemistry.
  1. Your thoughts ‘about’ revising, can either help or hinder the quality of processes involved in revising.
  1. Thinking drives emotions (chemical signals) which motivate people to avoid something or move towards it.  This movement generates behaviour.

 

Which of these statements are most true for you?

Motivation
Being motivated by others is an important driver.
Self-generated desire is a powerful force.

Outcome
Performance guarantees future success or failure.
Performance provides useful feedback to build upon.

Comparison
The performance of others is an important benchmark.
Personal previous performance builds powerful feedback loops.

Getting clear about your personal thoughts, beliefs, and motivations will help you steer more elegant behaviours through times of revision.  There are no right or wrong answers here as the world is full of examples of people who have both succeeded and failed tests and exams, yet gone on to live successful, happy, fulfilling lives.

The question on my mind is how can you help yourself or another person, learn how they are currently handling their magnificent learning machines?  While making adjustments that enable greater flow towards a more desired future.