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Navigating the Path to Personal Transformation – One Question at a Time

Navigating the Path to Personal Transformation – One Question at a Time

As we journey through life, it is natural to imagine our future selves, and to contemplate the changes we wish to see within us. Often, when prompted to envision a future say 12 months down the line, our minds gravitate towards tangible goals such as more money, a new house, a promotion at work.
These aspirations, while important, merely scratch the surface of our potential for growth and self-improvement because these kinds of desirable outcomes are so often just ideas given to us through social programming.
And we’ve glued them into our psyche through repetitive thinking. 

It is in the uncharted territories of our minds where true transformation awaits, longing to be discovered and embraced. But society thrives on conformity
and routine, teaching us what to value, leaving hidden, inner desires patiently waiting to be seen, heard, and set free.

When I ask clients to envision a transformed future self, I discover several common yearnings like increased confidence and inner calm. Admirable traits to strive for, yet they still represent the tip of the iceberg in our quest for lifelong personal enhancement.

Aristotle once said, “It takes an educated mind to entertain an idea without accepting it.” Profound wisdom urging us to be open-minded and receptive to concepts that challenge our existing beliefs.

  • Do you value lifelong personal enhancement? 
  • Are you open to changing in a way that paves self-discovery?
  • Will you commit to new skills for developing yourself as a better human?
  • Could you be more joyful, fulfilled, and in love with life?

In a world that often feels fragmented and detached, your power to effect conscious growth lies within. By committing to your unique path of enlightenment, you get to ripple-effect positivity and transformation into your corner of the world, whether through one-on-one interactions, close relationships, or group endeavors. We each have the capacity to influence and inspire others through our own journey of change.

So, say 12 months from now, you want more calm and confidence? Well, let’s tickle your imagination to go find new answers. Get specific! What do you see yourself doing more calmly or confidently, where, when, why, and with whom?

Embracing the art of well targeted questioning, invites a spirit of curiosity and exploration into our lives, propelling us towards a future fuelled by limitless possibilities and potential.

NLP is a master technology for helping people embark on their transformative journey where authentic change aligns inner and outer worlds. So go ahead and envision the most wonderful version of yourself 12 months from now. What do you see, hear, smell, taste, and touch? What are you doing? And how great does that feel? 

Go tickle the vital potential you are waiting for.

A Lovely Love Story by Edward Monkton

A Lovely Love Story by Edward Monkton

The fierce Dinosaur was trapped inside his cage of ice. Although it was cold, he was happy in there. It was, after all, his cage.

Then along came the Lovely Other Dinosaur.

The Lovely Other Dinosaur melted the Dinosaur’s cage with kind words and loving thoughts.

“I like this Dinosaur,” thought the Lovely Other Dinosaur. “Although he is fierce he is also tender and he is funny. He is also quite clever though I will not tell him this for now.”

“I like this Lovely Other Dinosaur,” thought the Dinosaur. “She is beautiful and she is different and she smells so nice. She is also a free spirit which is a quality I much admire in a dinosaur.”

“But he can be so distant and so peculiar at times,” thought the Lovely Other Dinosaur.  “He is also overly fond of things.  Are all Dinosaurs so overly fond of things?”

“But her mind skips from here to there so quickly,” thought the Dinosaur.  “She is also uncommonly keen on shopping.  Are all Lovely Other Dinosaurs so uncommonly keen on shopping?”

“I will forgive his peculiarity and his concern for things,” thought the Lovely Other Dinosaur, “for they are part of what makes him a richly charactered individual.”

“I will forgive her skipping mind and her fondness for shopping,” thought the Dinosaur, “for she fills our life with beautiful thoughts and wonderful surprises. Besides, I am not unkeen on shopping either.”

Now the Dinosaur and the Lovely Other Dinosaur are old.  Look at them.  Together they stand on the hill telling each other stories and feeling the warmth of the sun on their backs.

And that, my friends, is how it is with love.

Let us all be Dinosaurs and Lovely Other Dinosaurs together. For the sun is warm.  And the world is a beautiful place.

Boredom Matters

Boredom Matters

“I’m bored.”

Means “I don’t know what to do”?

Which implies “I need to know what to do”?

And therefore “please help me to avoid this feeling of uncertainty.”

TIME is the commodity and EMOTION is the currency; when we have time, we want to fill it will good feelings. And we can.

Yet a cruel outcome of fast-fix good feelings is ‘learned helplessness (“I’m bored – fix my feelings”)’ nourished by passive feel-goods like TV, social media, sugar, alcohol …

Phew!
Anxiety is dissolved by passive feel-goods. But not for long because we never resolve the nagging feeling that we dislike ‘that boredom space’.

Such a shame!
So many people feeling miserable and trapped within the solutions of quick-fixing profiteers.

Because!
Our brains are so easily trained, wired and re-wired.

Rewired by passive learning (the less aware we are of the boredom programming, the easier the acceptance).

Rewired by active learning and creative engagement with boredom to experience new and novel handling of uncertainty:

problem solving – how will I make that old sofa more comfortable?
creation – what kind of meal can I make out of these ingredients?
imagination – what will my garden look like if I dig up the flower bed?
experimentation – which windowsill has best suited my house plant?
exploration – let’s visit that woodland walk I heard about.
discovery – which food upset my digestion?
role play – how does it feel to pretend to be like my favourite calm person?
learning – which thoughts motivate me most?

Boredom!
Provides training ground for THRIVING through adapting and adjusting to difficulties and disappointments. Thriving brains know more conscious CHOICES.

Boredom!
Also provides training ground for SURVIVING through having our attention controlled by someone else. Surviving brains revert to auto-pilot and can’t make conscious choices.

Boredom!
Is a curious description of a state of human consciousness where there is space to be trained into helplessness and survival behaviour, or it is a space to build resourcefulness and resilience for a thriving future.

Thrive!
Let your children – and your own inner child – handle boredom actively …