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Simplicity, Resilience & Clarity

Simplicity, Resilience & Clarity

Sean started planning a mountain hike.

Closing his eyes, helped him recall his past hikes.

Remembering the time when ill-fitting shoes had rubbed a blister into his heel, he decided to invest in boots more suitable for the task ahead.

Remembering the time when driving rain had leaked through the seams of his coat, he decided to find a waterproof coat more suitable for the task ahead.

Remembering the time when his head became very sunburned, he decided to pack a hat more suitable for the task ahead.

Closing his eyes once more he confirmed the feeling of attraction towards this forthcoming hiking challenge. And began mentally rehearsing required attitudes and abilities that would assist an exciting adventure.

Sean kept it simple. He checked his past experiences to prepare himself for the future he wished to welcome.

Sean’s hiking companion Stu however, was not feeling so enthusiastic about the forthcoming hike. On one hand he wanted to do it. But every time he thought about it his brain’s record of previous events (driving rain, foot blisters and sunburn) kept prompting thoughts like “it’s not fair… what if that happens again… that’s always my bad luck…” which in turn produced avoidance feelings. That overwhelm trapped him in a state of suffering. Stu agonised for many weeks about whether he should take another (sure to be) miserable hike or avoid it, only to be tormented by the thought of missing out on a day with his pal.

Contrary to Sean, Stu’s thinking processes were not at all simple.

Both Sean and Stu’s brains were preparing them to meet their futures.

Just like Dalia who told me “I knew I was going to tell you that (revelation), I sometimes think I’m psychic” and I thought to myself “if only she’d been conscious of that mental rehearsal”.

We are all heading into our futures, the question is ‘how’.

Defining, refining, and mentally rehearsing your future is a proven strategy for installing new circuitry in the brain, whether that’s to terrorise yourself into decision-inertia (like Stu) or to propel yourself into the next adventure (like Sean). The auto-pilot part of your brain doesn’t care either way, it just needs direction. So why not use the conscious part of your mind to meet an enhanced future that you’ll love meeting and being in?

Brain training is an art form to manipulate neural circuitry through hypnosis, visualisation, or even guided meditation. And NLP provides the perfect combination of conscious and non-conscious co-creation. Because that future you – is thanking you for making your past matter.

Boredom Matters

Boredom Matters

“I’m bored.”

Means “I don’t know what to do”?

Which implies “I need to know what to do”?

And therefore “please help me to avoid this feeling of uncertainty.”

TIME is the commodity and EMOTION is the currency; when we have time, we want to fill it will good feelings. And we can.

Yet a cruel outcome of fast-fix good feelings is ‘learned helplessness (“I’m bored – fix my feelings”)’ nourished by passive feel-goods like TV, social media, sugar, alcohol …

Phew!
Anxiety is dissolved by passive feel-goods. But not for long because we never resolve the nagging feeling that we dislike ‘that boredom space’.

Such a shame!
So many people feeling miserable and trapped within the solutions of quick-fixing profiteers.

Because!
Our brains are so easily trained, wired and re-wired.

Rewired by passive learning (the less aware we are of the boredom programming, the easier the acceptance).

Rewired by active learning and creative engagement with boredom to experience new and novel handling of uncertainty:

problem solving – how will I make that old sofa more comfortable?
creation – what kind of meal can I make out of these ingredients?
imagination – what will my garden look like if I dig up the flower bed?
experimentation – which windowsill has best suited my house plant?
exploration – let’s visit that woodland walk I heard about.
discovery – which food upset my digestion?
role play – how does it feel to pretend to be like my favourite calm person?
learning – which thoughts motivate me most?

Boredom!
Provides training ground for THRIVING through adapting and adjusting to difficulties and disappointments. Thriving brains know more conscious CHOICES.

Boredom!
Also provides training ground for SURVIVING through having our attention controlled by someone else. Surviving brains revert to auto-pilot and can’t make conscious choices.

Boredom!
Is a curious description of a state of human consciousness where there is space to be trained into helplessness and survival behaviour, or it is a space to build resourcefulness and resilience for a thriving future.

Thrive!
Let your children – and your own inner child – handle boredom actively …

Problem-Repeats

Problem-Repeats

“If you always do what you always did, you’ll always get what you always got.”
Henry Ford

Does that make sense to you?

Where are the ‘problem-repeats’ in your life?

You know it’s often easier to notice those patterns in other people’s lives, but when you cast your your mind back through your timeline, which problems keep repeating?

Did you ever try to change them?

Did you ever find a really good coach to help you harness the superpower of imagineering?

Your future starts in imagination – whether you are imagining what you are going to do later today, tomorrow, or next year – you’re setting your brain’s GPS.

We walked on the moon thanks to someone’s imagination. Yet some people terrorise and limit their future selves with wayward imaginineering! And so it needs to be harnessed and handled with precision. NLP is an amazing tool to help you do this easily.

For now, you could start by imagining what would happen if a mysterious force extinguished ‘problem-repeats’ from your world and breathed new life-energy into your life. What differences shine through? What does not change at all?

Imagination is a super skill, learn to use it with super precision. Isn’t it time to shine?

What Fourteen Wolves Can Teach Us …

What Fourteen Wolves Can Teach Us …

Balance – it’s in our nature.

In 1995 fourteen wolves were released into Yellowstone National Park.

At first deer numbers drastically reduced and then deer behaviour changed as they moved into areas less visible to the wolves.

In the absence of deer foraging, flowers and trees began flourishing, which led to berries, bugs and insects, which in turn attracted more birds. And then beavers returned, building dams that provided habitat for otters, muskrats, and reptiles. Coyote numbers reduced causing proliferation of rabbit and mice, which in turn attracted hawks, red foxes, badgers, and weasels.

And once a ‘balance’ between predator and prey was established, the park’s physical geography had changed as (previously eroded) riverbanks were now stabilised by the new vegetation.

What’s this got to do with NLP?

Have you ever noticed how the mind’s internal environment can house both predator AND prey? And although people come to us seeking ‘balance’ between work, home, and play, learning to ‘balance’ their internal habitat, always positively affects management of the outside world.

What are the mechanisms for restoring the mind’s habitat to flourishing vitality? Solutions start with awareness of possibility and an attitude of willingness to seek ‘balance’.

To do this we must think on purpose! Because thoughts alone either deplete or nourish brain-body chemistry, which in turn can cause erosion OR restoration of sustainable balances within.

Keep feeding thoughts that nurture thriving, that’s all. This alone will starve what no longer needs to exist in that place.

NLP is a system for sustainable inner balance! Do more of it! And if you can’t easily do it for yourself – do it so that others in your social system may thrive. Humanity is in great need of ‘balance’. And nature teaches us all we need to know.

Discover how we can help you balance your thoughts, feelings and behaviours and change your internal geography: HERE

Mind Magic

Mind Magic

Did you know that some of the world’s greatest genius minds have all shared a certain characteristic – a technique that is totally natural and easy to practise and we’d like to share this with you as you begin to use your mind to get the results you want.

History books and journals have recorded how each of these geniuses used their unconscious minds to nurture ‘whole brain’ thinking and used one technique.

The technique is called visualisation and it encourages ‘whole brain’ genius thinking by stimulating the underused right hemisphere.  Perhaps you’ve already heard that Einstein ‘dreamed’ his theory of relativity when he visualised himself riding a beam of light around the universe!

Nikola Tesla’s 19th-century discovery of alternating current begins like most typical invention stories.  He scrutinized the theories, the mechanics, and every minute detail.  Finally, he built the first motor, and then allowed it to run continuously for three months.  What is remarkable about Tesla is that the AC model he built and tested for three months was inside his head!  When he finally was ready to build his first physical prototype, it worked without fail.  As he knew it wouldthanks to visualization.

Tiger Woods first visualised winning the Masters at age 12 and still uses this technique today.

Team GB’s Olympic success in 2008 has been largely credited to the practise of visualisation that many sports coaches have become trained in.

And the list goes on with people such as Walt Disney, Martin Luther King Jr., Thomas Edison, Michael Jordan, Winston Churchill, Beethoven, Napoleon, Carl Lewis, Jack Nicklaus, Alexander Graham Bell, and more!

So if I could show you a simple way to tap into this genius mind practice that explores the magical inner worlds, would you be interested?

Join our online guided mediation sessions Tuesdays at 8pm (UK):

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Overcoming Adversity

Overcoming Adversity

Do you have an attitude for ‘how will I get through this?’  To summon determination so that you keep going until you get to the other side of something stressful.

That’s resilience.  It’s training your brain to push through adversity rather than fold into helplessness when the going gets tough.

I consider myself pretty resilient and I’m tenacious in finding new ways to thrive, but I want to share with you a time when I was really tested to think out of the box and rapidly come up with a brand-new coping strategy.  I was lying in the MRI scanner about to have my head and neck scanned.

“Soothing music?” they asked.

“Of course,” I replied, knowing how such music positively affects brainwaves.

“Here’s the panic button.  Press it and we’ll get you out as quickly as possible”

“Oh, I won’t need that, I’m an accomplished meditator” my Hubris responded, after all I was making clear pictures of myself lying flat and relaxed.

And so, it began. I lay still, calm, and ready to remain relaxed.

But no sooner than the machine began its vibrating sound, my reptilian brain immediately shifted into a primitive fight/flight reaction.

No problem I thought, understanding that I just needed to adjust my autonomic nervous system reaction.  So I aimed all attention on soothing basal brain through a calming breathing technique.  But as visceral fear surged through me I panicked, pressed the button and they brought me out.  I was unable to override a fearful amygdala.

Truly bemused, I tried again a few moments later.  This time, I decided to activate my brain’s creative centres through visualisation of my happy place with full sensory association – an excellent way to switch on calm.  But no, as cortisol and adrenaline misdirected my body, reptilian brain pressed the button again…

Damn it.  Now I was cross and somewhat shocked at how my body and mind had stopped talking to each other.

Last chance.  I could either validate the fear reaction and retreat into failure, or find a new solution.  This is your brain, drive it on purpose”  I thought calmly and clearly.

“How else can you drive your brain through fear and get to beyond?”

I made a mental checklist of what hadn’t worked and searched for something different.  Numbers!  Maths!  My sure way to zone out!

And so I began counting back from 500, out loud while visualising each number.  It required intense concentration and I frequently had to start again whenever I lost that focus.  But it worked, the strategy worked!  I had pushed through adversity and discovered a new strategy.  Learning through doing something different.