In this podcast, Happy Brain Trainers Kay Cooke and Tracey Hutchinson (British Horse Society coach) discuss the importance of language in riding instruction, emphasising the impact of both rider and coach’s words. They highlight that negative instructions, such as “don’t grip with your legs,” can inadvertently prompt the opposite behaviour. The conversation stresses the effectiveness of positive, clear instructions like “sit up straight” and the significance of tonality. They also explore the concept of NLP presuppositions, where phrasing instructions in a positive manner can influence the rider’s mindset and performance. The discussion touches on the psychological aspects of riding, including the rider’s internal language and the horse’s response to the rider’s state of mind.
A busy and fruitful month of May has passed, and I am excited to share with you some key reflections that may resonate with and inspire your personal wellbeing journey.
**Like Attracts Like**
In mid-May, I had the pleasure of assisting in a Neuro Hypnotic Repatterning program in Italy with Dr. Richard Bandler. This program delves into immersing the mind-body in positive chemistry, unlocking the brain’s creative solutions centre. This experience of being part of a super high-calibre team, highlights the importance of surrounding oneself with excellence and raising personal standards of responsibility.
*Reflection:*How can you seek out and integrate systems of excellence in your daily life?
**Feedback to Feedforward**
Throughout May, I delved into personal metrics to assess my growth, including staying grounded in chaotic environments, embodying calm and confident states, and maintaining centeredness. Taking responsibility for the feedback loop of my mind-body connections has significantly improved my life.
*Reflection:* What personal metrics are you using to enhance your well-being and growth?
**Calibrating**
Whilst engaged in seminars in Italy and London during May, many discussions centred around techniques for family stability. We believe and teach that true flourishing requires the understanding of family dynamics, rather than simply managing symptoms. As a result, I’m excitedly making plans to reintroduce live workshops that support families in navigating their unique systems.
*Reflection:* How can you deepen your understanding of your family system to foster growth and stability?
**Collaborating**
The theme of collaboration resonated strongly among my peers in May, emphasising the value of authentic partnerships driven by shared values and skills. In times of rising consciousness, genuine connections and alliances are most definitely key to fostering growth and success. That means less shallow partnerships for economic or glamour gains.
*Reflection:*Since none of us are as smart as all of us, how do you align with others on or above your wavelength, to incubate and propagate mutual growth and success?
May has been a month of growth, reflection, and connection. Perhaps my insights have tickled yours? If so, please share what you apply to your personal journey for enhancing well-being and happiness. Kx
Creatives love creating and marketers love marketing. How do you combines these? My honest account of a challenging journey!
July was momentous for me – I finally succumbed to the marketing promise of ‘beating the algorithm’. It’s a business, after all, right? Yet, I felt deeply uncomfortable. Being called Pollyanna many times, I naïvely thought, “just write the books, and people will read them”. But, as it turns out, that’s not the case …
This month in my newsletter we’re sharing some secrets that key influencers use to nourish the minds and actions of people who live/work in communities. That may be social communities, workplace teams or families.
Enabling human thriving is easiest when leaders, caregivers, parents and managers demonstrate these practices:
⭐ ‘Walking their talk’ as role models for continuous improvement, taking responsibility for personal development that leads to professional flourishing.
⭐ Understanding how rapport works and how to shift people’s most useful states of consciousness.
⭐ Helping people’s nervous systems feeling safe is key – and that can be influenced both consciously and non-consciously.
⭐ Non-judgement and non-labelling of mistakes and recognising how transient behaviours are often invaluable learning opportunities.
⭐ Validating an individual’s reality as true for them in that moment of time while guiding their attention to a healthier realities and more desirable outcomes.
⭐ Guidance through difficulties with a ‘you’ve got this’ attitude while coaching sustainable mind skills.
⭐ Valuing fresh air, connection to nature, good nutrition, hydration, rest.
⭐ Physical movement with different kinds of rhythm, pace and expression is key to good neuro-physiological health.
⭐ Utilising background sounds & modulating voice tones that stimulate useful states of excitement, focus, and/or soothing calm.
These practices influence the non-conscious reptilian brain’s encoding of life experiences to date (map of the world). This brain part learns fast and prioritises familiarity to ensure survival. It is not rational and sometimes acts alone, without the guidance of logic and healthy emotion, which can be problematic!
Each nervous system in any group of humans, is SIMPLY finding ways to feel safe, albeit sometimes in unhealthy ways.
Your role as a people manager (home, work or play) is to help the whole system thrive by nourishing the individual component parts within. This requires congruent intention and high-level skills for influencing with integrity and precision.
Isn’t it time you discovered how you can contribute to a new thriving system for a flourishing next generation?
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